Whom to Blame for a Divorce?

It's surprising as well as shocking to see the shooting rate of divorce cases in the society. There used to be a time when it was considered a tabooed aspect of one's life, but nowadays we have got used to it. And on top of that, there is not even the shortage of such people who feel proud in increasing the numbers of such cases in their lives. It's quite obvious that a person will file a divorce only if the marriage is not happy. With the modern age, people should have become more understanding with increased power of tolerance in their relationships, but the river seems to be flowing in the opposite direction.

Whose fault is that? The fault of technology or the fault of money. The fault of lifestyle or the fault of culture. In my opinion, none of these reasons can be set as curtains behind which such cases prop up. No and an absolute no! Because all the things mentioned above are feeling less and created by man himself. How could the owner be controlled by the things he created himself?

Yes, the rising graph of such cases held the people responsible themselves in 90% of the cases. Marriage, a bond for the permanent life, that's what mentioned at the time of marriage, is made a temporary relationship. Man made the money not the vice versa so, why he is getting into its trap and forgetting his roots. And it would not be wrong to blame those celebrities making records in the number of marriages and media waiting for the news of their divorce and spicy stories about the next marriage. What example do they set for us? Do you think a person not satisfied with his relationships can ever be satisfied with the power of money? Better, we common people look deep inside ourselves and understand the resolution for this. And this applies for both man and woman.

A man can become pregnant and a woman can become a father in this scientific world, but the instincts can't ever be changed. Divorce should be the last option as even Bible also stands against it. Not only mental depression and shock to the divorcees, but the badly affected part is the children they own as they become estranged and insecure in many ways any security be provided by the court.

The lack of commitment is the root cause of the increasing rate of divorces. Who doesn't fight and which place and person of the world is devoid of misunderstandings? But, it's the love, respect, tolerance for each other's feelings and emotions which keeps a relationship intact and forever green and going.

Are You Ready to Marry?

Some of the questions which should be taken into consideration by both man and woman before saying yes for marriage.

These are some of the questions which should be asked from one’s own self before agreeing for marriage.

                                    

1. The first question should be whether you are compatible with your partner or not. You should check if you and your partner share the same interests, values and outlook towards life. And the most important question should be whether you like your partner as a person and not just as a passing romantic interest.

2. You should make sure that you are ready to commit to your partner and to the marriage. You should also be emotionally stable and mature enough for a commitment that comes with no guarantees. 

3. Check yourself if you are ready to take the responsibility of another person. And also make sure that you are ready and able to start a family and take care of it.

4. Ask yourself if you are financially secure and stable with long terms plans


5. Last but not the least , you should be very clear in your mind about the social and family set up of your partner

Her Fault Lies in Being a Woman

Why is always a woman blamed? Why is the respect and culture of a society always associated with women? Where does the responsibility of a man lie? This refers to the recent article published in newspaper in support of Pandher which demanded for the punishment of girls whom he used to bring in order to punish him who committed the heinous crime of not only killing the innocent children but also cutting them into pieces and thereafter throwing it in drains to hide his inhuman deeds. Pandher is also charged with the rape and murder of not one but many girls whom he used to bring to fulfill his voyeur desires. It's really horrible to even think of such people who commit such crimes and more frightening are those who stand in support of them. The same argument was also written in favour of his servant koli who used to rape the dead bodies and also eat them. The article tried to defend the monster in form of human by saying that he should not be punished as he didn't commit the crime intentionally but because of his disorder.

Shame on those who extend hands of support to such people who are in fact not only the killers of innocent people but also the culture, civilization and even the basic ethics of a society. We all take immense interest whenever we hear something related to the story of Fiza and Chand Mohammad and most of us end up with the famous sentence ' Man can go away with this but how shameless was the woman dared to do such an act'. Fiza's life, dignity and respect is tainted forever without denying the fact that Chand is also spotted but Fiza is only forced to suffer and will bear the pointing fingers throughout the life. Chand Mohammad went back to his previous wife and can lead the life normally after the whole episode. Yes, definitely the question arises that Fiza can also folloow the same but if practically applied it never happens in our society. The woman is blotted forever and a man is left for being a man.
Don't dare to take for granted the biological weakness of woman in which God also did the partiality but respect her for her immense emotional strength which holds the mother earth.
If a woman can give birth to a man then she also knows how to take hold of that man and show him the right place. man and woman are the two wheels of our society and it won't be able to run smoothly if any one of the wheels is tried to be crushed in anyway. And always remember the proven truth "Only that society flourishes in which women are respected". A woman shouldn't always be blamed as a man is equally responsible for maintaining the digmity of a society and his indecent acts can affect it badly.